The Archaeology of Becoming
For women who lead and know there is more beneath the surface.
You are holding more than anyone can see. And you are good at it.
But something underneath has grown heavier than it used to be.
Not because you are less capable. Because the role has been asking more than it admits.
What looks like a confidence issue, a resilience gap, a need for better boundaries, usually isn’t.
And the women this shows up in are often the most capable in the room.
These women stay steady under pressure. They think clearly when things are uncertain.
They hold the room together. They are often the ones who turn situations around and hold the fort.
And then sit in their car afterwards, not knowing what they feel or what just happened.
There are very few places where a senior woman can say:
"This is heavy for me." "I don't know how much longer I can carry it like this." "This role is changing me in ways I don't like."
So instead of naming it, they normalise it. They assume it's just part of leadership. And they keep going.
This is not weakness. It is a nervous system that has organised itself around a role’s demands.
Most of the women I speak with have already tried to solve it.
They have taken the leadership programme, worked with the therapist.
They read the books, restructured their boundaries, taken the holiday.
Some have changed roles entirely.
And still something persists.
A flatness where there used to be drive.
A sense of going through the motions with precision.
A version of themselves they perform so well that even they have stopped questioning whether it is really them.
The story they tell themselves is usually one of these:
"I just need to push through. I need to be more resilient. I need better boundaries. I need more rest. Something is wrong with me."
None of those stories is accurate. But they are understandable.
Because the real source of what they are feeling has rarely been named, let alone addressed.
What the mind moves past, the body absorbs. It does not complete. It accumulates.
I am an Archaeologist of the Subconscious.
I attend to what sits beneath visible leadership behaviour. Not performance. Not strategy.
But the quieter layers where endurance is rewarded as strength, and self-containment is mistaken for competence.
These are not personal failings. They are intelligent adaptations. They can be met, understood, and gently released.
Intellect cannot heal emotional overload. But when the body finally feels safe enough, the two can work together.
This work is one to one, high-touch, and bespoke.
I work privately with a small number of senior women leaders, founders, and cultural change-makers.
Leadership should not require the steady erosion of a person’s inner life.
What most women requires in this position is not more strategy laid on top of an already overloaded system.
It requires going underneath to where the body has been quietly absorbing what the mind has been moving past.
This is not therapy. It is not performance coaching. It is not mindset work.
It is something more specific: work that addresses the nervous system and the subconscious directly,
at the level where the patterns actually live. Where endurance has been stored as identity.
Where self-containment has become the only way of feeling safe.
When that level is reached, and it can be reached, something shifts that no amount of strategy could have moved.
That is what this work is.
If something here has named an experience you have been carrying, the Archaeology Session is where that recognition becomes something you can actually work with.
The Archaeology Session is a single, paid, ninety-minute encounter with the work. It is not a consultation. It is not an assessment.
It is a genuine first session, where we go beneath the surface of what is presenting and begin to attend to what is actually there.
Some clients continue working with me after this session. Others find that one session opens something significant on its own.
Either is welcome.
Investment: £350
Because this work is deeply personal I do not use automated booking for this initial step.
Once you have filled the Before We Begin Form I will reply with available times and the secure payment link.
Sessions are held on kMeet, a secure Swiss-hosted platform.
What clients experince
“Working with Silvia was transformational.
As an anxious public speaker, I struggled to sound natural and confident, even when reading from a script.
Over two weeks of daily support, including text check-ins and a custom energetic playlist, and even attending my webinar,
Silvia wrapped me in a cocoon of encouragement and strength.
For the first time, I delivered my webinar where my voice felt fluid, expressive, and strong.
Since then, I’ve delivered a webinar to a large government organisation and experienced the same confidence, ease, and presence.
Silvia’s presence, deep coaching skills, and unwavering support made all the difference.
Trusting her, even without prior experience with energy work, was one of the best decisions I’ve made.
We continue working together now, with plans for another intensive session before my next speaking event.
Silvia didn’t just reduce my anxiety, she is transforming my relationship with public speaking.”
Dr Irena O’Brien, PhD, Founder of Neuroscience School - Canada
"I had always believed that I needed to become stronger.
This work helped me realise that I am already strong enough and that I deserve to take care of myself because I am worth it.
I feel lighter and ready to enjoy my life more than ever."
Senior leader, Europe
"One session in and this is already the most impactful, genuinely healing work I have ever experienced. And I have tried all of them."
Leader and coach, UK
"I still feel very calm, like a rock in a stormy ocean. I feel less apologetic for existing.
I set my boundaries more clearly. I speak more truth. I am more loving. I no longer feel sorry for myself when things go wrong.
Silvia takes you to places you have never experienced. She notices subtle changes in your body that lead to memories you have long forgotten. I am exploring a hidden world that is me. I will truly be forever grateful."
Female Leader, UK
"I am feeling so relaxed. Free, even. Like my body is loose and I'm not holding on to anything, especially in my head."
Coaching client, Australia
A Unique Collaboration
While Silvia served as Dr. O’Brien’s coach, supporting her through her own leadership evolution over a 4 month coaching container,
she simultaneously trained atThe Neuroscience School to ground her somatic work in rigorous science.
This rare intersection of student and guide has blossomed into a creative peer collaboration:
Co-Authors:
Together, they write the LinkedIn newsletter series Invisible Patterns of Women in Leadership.
Co-Creators:
For the next 12 months, Dr. O’Brien’s top-ranked podcast, The Neuroscience of Coaching, will dedicate a monthly episode to unpacking the science behind their shared articles.
The Archaeology Of Becoming
The Archaelogy Of Becoming is a bespoke four-month coaching container, shaped entirely around the individual client's needs.
No fixed structure. No predetermined outcome. The work goes where the person needs to go.
The Archaeology of Becoming begins after the Archaeology Session.
